On my wedding night. With my brand new wife. The church gave us so many reasons why we should have waited. The problem was that it told us nothing about what to do when we got there.
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Why is virginity so important in the Bible? | bestdoll.vip
Growing up in a Christian home, I was raised to view my virginity as almost as important as my salvation. I took those warnings to heart. It's difficult to understand if you didn't grow up in the church, but the focus on purity before marriage is so pervasive in many Christian circles that I didn't even question it. Of course I would wait until marriage. How could I think of doing anything else? When I was 15, I signed the pledge to wait to have sex until marriage.
A very good friend of mine recently broke up with her boyfriend. They were both Christians, very involved in the church and on the outside seemed happy. I was not shocked when they broke up though, because she had confessed to me their biggest problem: He would not let go of the fact that she was not a virgin. Over and over he brought up that he needed to "mourn what was lost," even though these conversations would often end with her in tears.
Jana was new to youth group and seemed to have a built in magnet for every guy who met her. She was pretty, but very quiet, which instantly created intrigue and curiosity in all the guys who saw her. This created curiosity and intrigue in Jana and she became secretly determined to add his attention to her list. Jana began dreaming of what it would be like to have Nate for her boyfriend and imagined how exciting going on dates would be. They told their parents they were going out with a group of friends, but would secretly hang out alone.