Hooking up with someone who has a girlfriend

Dear Rachel, Over the summer, I hooked up with this guy a couple of times who kind of had a girlfriend but it was one of those silly relationships where they never ever see Over the summer, I hooked up with this guy a couple of times who kind of had a girlfriend but it was one of those silly relationships where they never ever see each other or hang out. And I really really liked him and well I'm not sure how he feels about me because although he claims he had feelings for me, too, he never broke up with his girlfriend. And I feel as if he used me to get what he couldn't get from her.

What do you do? What any other girl would do: start cursing at your boyfriend, while nailing him in the face with anything and everything that reminds you of him. What if they painted a picture of an actual girl? Someone you could relate to. Someone you envied.

I've been hooking up with this guy for about a year and a half. He began dating a girl about 6 months after we began hooking up, but we didn't stop seeing each other. I've basically just been brushing it off, but last weekend she got my friends involved and trash talked about me to them.

There are lots of things you don't know about a man when you meet him at a bar. Like, where he lives. Or who he knows. Or, sometimes, his name which makes the phone number exchange mighty awkward the next morning.